This blog post is inspired by a Facebook status I saw today. Popularity vs influence. It made me laugh so hard because it reminded me of grade school and high school. You know – the peer pressure and the cliques? It makes me wonder what bad experience that person had in their childhood which made them like that today, so eager to please and be loved by everyone. I have written here before if you check out this blog post: Truthfulness, that it’s not good, in fact useless, to try to impress people. I mean why do people do that? It just complicates life. And that hinders one’s happiness.
Like I always say: just simplify and savor your life.
And it made me think of this too..
A lot of people are always busy proving themselves to someone or to everyone. For example, an employee always tries to prove himself the best in front of his boss, while a student always tries to prove himself the best in front of his teacher. Well, again, these are absolutely useless; you need to know the basic and the simplest truth of life – you don’t need to prove yourself to anyone. You only have to answer to yourself. Never ever try to prove yourself to anyone.
It’s a waste of time and energy..
When you are desperately trying to prove yourself, then surely you must have put lots of effort into it. What if you don’t succeed in proving yourself in whatever it is that you’re trying to prove? Then you’ve simply wasted time and energy.
It all comes down to self-confidence..
Sometimes, when you want to impress, it is mainly out of the desire to be treated better. But it just doesn’t work out that way. Only by keeping calm and developing self-confidence will you have peace of mind. This will bring out a different vibe from you, and you will get that positive response from people. You don’t have to put much effort just to impress others. You just have to be true to yourself and have that positive attitude.
Stick to your values..
Now one of the most important things to remember is that you should always stick to your values. Getting diverted from your values will not help you in anyway. Develop a goal in life, and try to find the right track to reach it while sticking to your values and ideals.
Have faith in yourself..
Never ever lose faith in yourself, or lose control of your life. You are the ruler of your life, and it is ultimately you who have to decide what you want to do with it. Just mind your own business, and things will automatically become clear and fall into place. Develop a simple attitude towards life so that it is not difficult for you to follow them.
The combination of all these things will give you the impression and a solid understanding of why you only have to answer to yourself. And remember, for you to reach your goal, you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone.
At the end of the day, your family will always be there for you (not because you’re popular), and certainly not the people you’ve “influenced”.