In life, everyone is always filled with choices. A person may opt to have a pessimist’s view and live a self-defeated, miserable life or may also decide to take the optimist’s route and take a fulfilling and challenging life. People respond positively to optimists. So if you feel like you are losing your friends and alienating people then you should know who has the problem.
Optimists tend to focus on as well as plan for the problem or the issue at hand. We use ‘positive reinterpretation.’ In other words we are most likely to reinterpret a negative experience in a way that helps us learn and grow. Positive people are unfazed by bad situations and we perceive it is a challenge and try much harder.
The positive expectancies of optimists also predict better reactions during transitions to new environments, sudden tragedies and unlikely turn of events. If we fall, we will stand up. We see opportunities instead of obstacles.
Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They find no need to control or manipulate people. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and influence those they are with.
So as you can see, optimism seems a socially desirable trait in all communities. Those who share optimism are generally accepted while those who spread gloom, panic and hysteria are treated unfavorably.
Here are twelve characteristics of optimists who have tough minds. Try to cultivate them so that your life won’t be less miserable.
Twelve Characteristics of Tough-Minded Optimists
1. Optimists are seldom surprised by trouble.
2. Optimists look for partial solutions.
3. Optimists believe they have control over their future.
4. Optimists allow for regular renewal.
5. Optimists interrupt their negative trains of thought.
6. Optimists heighten their powers of appreciation.
7. Optimists use their imaginations to rehearse success.
8. Optimists are cheerful even when they can’t be happy.
9. Optimists believe they have an almost unlimited capacity for stretching.
10. Optimists build lots of love into their lives.
11. Optimists like to swap good news.
12. Optimists accept what cannot be changed.
*Taken from “The Power of Optimism” by Alan Loy McGinnis
So why nurture an optimist’s point of view? And why now? Well optimism has been linked to positive mood and good morale; to academic, athletic, military, occupational and political success; to popularity; to good health and even to long life and freedom from trauma.
When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher. Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective well-being during times of stress than do people who are less optimistic. In contrast, pessimists are likely to react to stressful events by denying that they exist or by avoiding dealing with problems. Pessimists are more likely to quit trying when difficulties arise.
We persevere. We just don’t give up easily. We have patience. Inching our way a step closer to our goals and dreams. So try to be an Optimist! Live a happy life!